Excuse me, moms, can I have just a minute of your time? I KNOW you’re busy, or maybe you’re totally not. Either way, can I just take a minute to say could we all just stop worrying about what everyone else is doing? Really, we’ll all be happier if we just be ourselves and stop giving a damn about what anyone else is doing OR what anyone else thinks about what we’re doing!
Ok so maybe that last parts a little ironic since the whole reason I’m writing this is because it came to my attention that maybe people are judging me more than I have considered in the past. That maybe a simple post on Facebook about a fun craft project or a staycation, might be viewed as trying to hard, raising my kids expectations too much or may simply indicate that I’m raising spoiled, self entitled brats. Now trust me, I’ve been very aware that some of the things that make me, me aren’t always appreciated by everyone. I’m a loud and rowdy sports mom who ENJOYS my time on the sports sidelines, often much to this distaste of others. It has taken me a long time to get over the fact that being boldly who I am will mean that some people won’t like me, because I have a deep rooted need to BE LIKED. But to see in black and white that some people view crafty “pinterest-y” moms as raising a “bunch of spoiled kids who expect the world to be given to them on a silver platter,” I was a little shocked. I mean, lets be honest I am NO Martha Stewart. I am not really that great of a crafter and an even poorer cook. But as I step back into the person I was long ago and rediscover my love of crafts etc I have been sharing our projects. Not once did I ever consider that some simple projects could be raising my kids expectations too high. Nope, I’m just being me, trying to share the things I love with my kids.
Oh yes I know many out there in the land of social media carefully craft a perfect looking life by sharing only the best of the best of their lives. And sometimes I am guilty of cropping that photo so you don’t see the pile of laundry on the couch behind my otherwise adorable child. Or deleting a photo of myself I just hate. But so what. If we’re all being true to ourselves, living a life that makes US happy than why the hell do we care what anyone else is doing? Are they really hurting you by not posting that photo where their kid absolutely REFUSED to smile. Or if they spent an entire weekend making a single craft beautiful enough to post?
Can we all just agree to start living life how we want to and be content in that? If being a “Pinterest mom” causes you stress, DON’T DO IT! If you’d rather visit the dentist than attempt a craft project don’t waste your time. It’s simply not worth it. If you want your kids to have a chance to be crafty, check out the local library or the like for craft opportunities, or heck, ask that Pinterest mom nearby if your kids could join HER for a craft date sometimes. But if taking the time to make amazingly detailed lunches for your kids brings you joy, then do it. Enjoy it! And hopefully you’ll even share it and true friends will appreciate your passion as much as you would appreciate theirs.
If me sharing that I spent my evening creating THIS, makes you feel bad….I simply want you to consider what brings you join and make time to do that today!!!!!!
But if you pay attention, I also post ones like these…cuz it’s real life. One preteen really wanting it to just be over so he can go out with his friends, one mad that the sun is in his eyes, one TRYING and one bad angle for mama.
Go on mama, go be you! And know I’ll be over here being me, loudly and proudly. I won’t dial it back, and I hope you won’t either.